How to Be Yourself Without External Pressure or Influence

3 min readMay 1, 2023

In a world that’s constantly bombarding us with messages about how we should live that includes look, act, and think, it can be difficult to stay true to ourselves. We’re bombarded with images of “perfect” people, curated Instagram feeds, and influencers telling us what we should buy, wear, and do. It’s no wonder that so many of us feel lost, disconnected, and unsure of who they really are.

But the truth is, being yourself is the most important thing you can do. It’s what makes you unique, special, and irreplaceable. When you embrace who you are and accept your thoughts, you free yourself from the burden of external pressure and influence. You become brave, empowered, and capable of living a life that’s true to your values, passions, and dreams.

I came across this Calvin and Hobbes strip long back and it’s still imprinted on my mind.

So, how do you become yourself? How do you filter the noise and find your own voice? Here are some of the tips to help you get started:

Start with self-reflection

The first step to being yourself is to take some time to reflect on who you are, what you believe, and what you want. This means setting aside some quiet time to think, meditate, or even write a journal. Ask yourself questions like:

  • What are my core values?
  • What are my strengths and weaknesses?
  • What makes me happy?
  • What are my passions and interests?
  • What are my goals and dreams?

By taking the time to reflect on these questions, you can begin to discover your true self and identify the things that matter most to you.

Embrace your uniqueness

Once you’ve identified your core values, strengths, and passions, it’s time to embrace your uniqueness. This means accepting the things that make you different from others and being proud of them. Remember, it’s your differences that make you special.

Let go of external pressure and influence

One of the biggest barriers to being yourself is the pressure and influence of others. Whether it’s societal expectations, the opinions of friends and family, or even social media, it’s easy to feel like you need to conform to fit in. But the truth is, trying to please others or be someone you’re not will only leave you feeling unfulfilled and unhappy. Instead, let go of external pressure and focus on what feels right to you. Be yourself.

Practice self-care

Being yourself also means taking care of yourself. This means prioritizing your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Make time for exercise, healthy eating, and sleep. Practice mindfulness, meditation, or other self-care techniques to reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.

Read Books to Expand Your Mind and Liberate Yourself

Finally, in addition to doing above, another way to liberate and expand your mind is to read books. Books can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery. They can help you see the world from different perspectives, challenge your assumptions, and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. Whether you read fiction or non-fiction, books can provide a valuable escape from external pressure and allow you to explore your own thoughts and emotions. So, make reading a priority and see how it can help you on your journey to being your authentic self.

In conclusion, being yourself is not always easy, but it’s worth it. When you embrace your uniqueness, let go of external pressure, practice self-care, and reading books to expand your mind, you free yourself from the burden of trying to be someone you’re not. You become brave, empowered, and capable of living a life that’s true to your values, passions, and dreams. So, go out there and unapologetically be yourself — the world needs your unique perspective!




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